Does my disability define me?
Yes, I think it does. My disability is the reason I am who I am. However, it is not all that I am.
Let me guess, you were expecting some my disability does not define me crap? Of course it does but as I say it is not all that I am.
I am a girlfriend, daughter, granddaughter, niece, cousin, friend and many more. I am relatively funny? I am definitely sarcastic. I can also be a little dramatic. I am a music lover. A theatre goer. I am stubborn. I am strong. I am relatively smart. I am also disabled.
I honestly believe that if it weren’t for my disability I would not be the person I am now. I wouldn’t have had the opportunities I’ve had. I wouldn’t have the wonderful friends I do.
My disability is a part of me. Just like all of my traits. However, my disability has taught me many things. It has taught me how to be empathetic, sympathetic, a good listener and a good friend.
It has taught me patience, it has taught me how to advocate, it has taught me appreciation for the things and the people around me.
Am I ashamed of my disability? Absolutely not! Have I been ashamed of my disability? YES! Should I be ashamed of my disability? HELL NO!
I am not ashamed of the person I am and I am partially the person I am because of my disability. Learning to accept my disability is one of the best things I have ever done. Wow, do I wish I’d done it sooner.
I refuse to hide in a corner being ashamed of the person I am because I am disabled. It is not a bad word. It is not something people should be afraid of.
Please don’t get me wrong my life as a person with a disability has been rough, it is still super hard. Yes there are days where I wish I could take a break, a really really long break from the pain and sleepless nights. From the boundaries that I face from society. However, wishing away my disability A) would just not get me anywhere and B) I would be wishing away some of the best things about me.
To anyone out there who doesn’t take a second glance at the disabled guy or girl, you could be missing out on knowing an awesome human being.
To anyone out there who only sees the wheelchair, walker, crutches or leg splints, we are so much more. We are disabled but we could have the most hilarious conversations. We could share some of our deep secrets, go on some of the craziest adventures and we could live the happiest of lives.
To anyone out there feeling as though they have to hide away from the ablest society we live in, come out, sit up proud because YOU ARE AMAZING! You are funny, smart, witty and you have the kindest of hearts.
My disability does define me but it is not all that I am.
I am a glasses wearer. An adventurer. I am brave.
I am a make up lover. A big dress wearer. I am strong.
I am the first to splash in a puddle even at twenty. A seaside lover. I am caring.
I am hoodie lover. A baked bean hater. I am a brussel sprout eater.
I am clumsy. A bit of a disaster. I am never on time.
I am a bandage “expert”. A physio tape believer. I am a daily medication user.
I AM HOLLY, MY DISABILITY DOES DEFINE ME BUT IT IS NOT ALL THAT I AM AND I AM NOT ASHAMED.